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March 2025: Words to Lead By
A note from NER: As we have said before, there’s a lot going on right now. We continue to remind you to prepare, not panic. This email is our monthly collection of those resources we think most important to highlight. You’ll better be able to take these in if you also take a moment to pause. Make a cup of tea, refill your water bottle, look out the window for signs of spring. We’ll be here for you when you’re ready. As always, we are only a phone call or email away.
Essays and Resources to Engage Your Spiritual Leadership
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Lessons in the Layers
by wren bellavance-grace
These rocks.

They have seen some stuff.

Three million years ago, give or take a millennium, these rocks were buried - like the rest of what we now call Connecticut - beneath 1800-or-so feet of ice. As the ice slowly and steadily receded, these glacier carved rocks emerged into the sunlight along New England’s coastline.

After working recently with the leadership of one of our Connecticut congregations I paused by the ocean and spent time in quiet reflection among the boulders pictured above. I followed the striations on this rock, wondering at the weight of one layer pressed upon the next. I traced the whorls on the boulder below it, like an ancient fingerprint pressed into clay. These rocks, clearly comprised of what were once separate and distinct layers, appear today as a single immutable object. 

I thought about the weight of millions of tons of ice carving scars into stone, and about the sustained pressure over eons that fused layers of sediment, one atop another, again and again until there is no way to extricate one layer from another. The individual layers have become a single, unique, beautiful rock.

In my work with that congregation, we had been talking about Covenant. That which we call Covenant in our non-creedal faith tradition is more than the words we recite or print on our orders of service. The practice of covenanting is an essential spiritual practice for Unitarian Universalists. How will we commit to be with one another - in times of ease as well as times of anguish? What promises are we called to make to our congregational community? How will we act in alignment with our highest values? How does our shared covenant hold us in times of conflict, harm, and repair?

When we create our covenants, we often think about its horizontal dimension - how you and I will agree to be with one another in this place. There is also a vertical dimension - what are our covenantal promises rooted in, if not something larger than ourselves? Some call it Spirit of Love, others call it God, the Universe, Transcendence.

But the dimension I was thinking of as I walked among and gave my attention to these glacier carved rocks was the dimension of time. Our covenants, our covenantal promises and practices, are handed down to us from our ancestors in faith, the founders of the congregations that became Unitarian Universalist. Here in New England, some of those ancestors date back four centuries - which is not quite an ice age, but still, imagine all the layers of love and loss and lessons our ancestors in faith lived and worked through. Each of those moments of celebration and each of those struggles that threatened to drive them apart might be traced in your congregation's history as distinctly as the layers in these massive stones. 

In the rock I visited, the wide grey base provided a sturdy foundation. Perhaps this represents a congregation’s foundation, laid by founding families with faith enough and hope that their Love of God and neighbor would be enough. And to be clear, our ancestors in faith -  almost exclusively European merchants, colonizers, and religious refugees -  had a much more limited definition of their ‘neighbor’ than we hope to claim today. They committed to one another and with their first called minister to strive to serve their congregational community.

An orange pebbly layer might represent a time the congregation and their minister lost trust in one another, and the minister left mid-year, with an empty pulpit and no small amount of chaos. 

The cool green layer fused above this represents the recommitment and recovery the congregation enjoyed with a new minister, and new families that joined. 

The subsequent layers, some wider, some narrow, represent more years, decades, generations. All the stories of ministries and members coming and going. Layers of hard times when budgets were slim fused fast to bountiful years of growth and possibility. 

We have congregations in New England that are older than the nation itself. We have Covenanting Communities birthed in this 21st century. We are a living tradition, which means the promises, the commitments, the lessons our ancestors in faith learned, their essence lives still today in our communities, our theology, our covenantal commitments to each other and to the vision of Beloved Community (which our ancestors might have called Heaven). 

The foundational rock we have built our faith on is strong enough to withstand the challenges of these days. Together we weave strife and joy together into the next layer of our continuing story. It has always been so. We build on what we have inherited, and we strengthen our commitment to bequeath a strong, hope-full, unwavering faith to a future we dream into being together. 

So may it be.
Friends, where are you finding reminders of the strength of our faith in these days? We would love to receive a message from you.
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Partnership Portal Now Live!
Do you have a question but you aren't sure where to start? Check out the new Partnership Portal from the UUA on LeaderLab! This quick reference directory offers rich and carefully curated resources from across the UUA, organized by subject.
GA Registration Rates Increase March 31
Register for GA 2025 in Baltimore, MD today! As a reminder, each certified congregation is allowed to send one or more delegates, as determined by congregation size. Delegates must register. More information is available of the UUA website.
Resources to Meet the Moment
  • UUA Community Resilience Hub 
    • Check for more resources continuing to be published at the link above.
  • New! More resources on de-escalation training, including live trainings from Right To Be.
  • Side With Love presents a new monthly virtual event: The Gathering, second Mondays at 8:00pm ET. Join for spiritual grounding, political analysis, and collective action. Each gathering will be recorded. More information and registration is available at the link above.
    • If you are staff or a Board member in your congregation, your primary will soon email directly about a monthly, action-centered gathering: Now What?. This is a gathering for leadership following each month's The Gathering.
    • Grounded, Resilient, & Responsible: download this toolkit from Side With Love
Feedback Sessions on the Proposed
Congregational/Study Action Issues
These items all received the required “yes” votes in the Congregational Poll to be admitted to the agenda for UUA General Assembly 2025 (where one will be selected for three years of study, reflection, and action).

Join upcoming feedback sessions:

Registration is free and required at the links above. Learn more about CSAIs, the social witness process, and the Commission on Social Witness.
Cool Congregational Happenings
Unitarian Universalist Society of Grafton & Upton and Accessibility & Inclusion Ministry (AIM) present Ableism & Disability Justice, a presentation by Jim and Pat Piet on Sunday, March 30 at 100. This is a hybrid event; please see the Facebook event page for more details. RSVP is required.
Lexington and Concord will be celebrating their resistance to the oppression of British rule Friday, April 18 through Sunday, April 20. We did not want a king then - and we do not want one now.

Members of First Parish in Lexington UU are opening their homes to offer warm, comfortable, and affordable bed and breakfast accommodations. Proceeds will support First Parish Lexington's youth service trip. More information and registration is available on the First Parish website and for information on the town’s events visit the Lexington250 website
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